This Shouldn't Happen to Anyone
And if it does, it can be hard to know what to do. Sharing ways to prepare and help protect you is important, no matter who you are.
If something does happen to you, remember it is NOT your fault. There is nothing you did or did not do that caused you to be a victim. No matter what you wore, your gender, how much you drank, or what you did, you did not cause this. A victim is not at fault for the actions of their perpetrator.
1/ When going out
Going out to a bar, a frat, or a house party is fun for everyone, but it's still good to be cautious. When drinking, ensure that you only accept drinks from the bartender or unopened beverages from others. If you do have an open drink, it is always good to cover it when you're not looking or look for any signs of tampering (unnatural discoloration, bubbles, powder/clumps, weird smell/taste). If any are present, discard your drink and let someone know if possible.
2/ Buddy System
When planning on going out, it is always a good idea to bring someone with you. This can help make sure you both are safe and have someone to turn to if something goes wrong. For groups bigger than 3, if you do end up separating, still make sure no single person is left alone. Groups of 2-3 work best, allowing for mutual awareness and safety in numbers. If you see someone standing alone, ask to see if they're okay or want to join your group to make sure they're safe.
3/ Communication is key
If you are going out with friends, it can help to communicate the plan for the night. Whether that be between the group members (where you plan on going, what time you want to leave, and post-event plan) or other friends who are staying in (where you are going to be, who you are going to be with, and when you aim to be home). Make sure you keep your phone charged and handy to update others if plans change, and think about possibly sharing your location with friends so if you do plan on heading somewhere else, they know where you are. When you are out, communicating where you are headed, such as the bathroom or the bar, can keep you safe and reduce panic in friends if you walk away.
4/ See something, Say something
If you are out with friends and see someone who looks uncomfortable or is being touched, and you think something is off, try to step in. This does not matter if it is a guy or a girl; your words could help someone more than you know. Acting as if you are a friend, complimenting their outfit, or asking a question can help get them out of a tough situation. If you are at a bar and witness something happening, please notify one of the staff members or security personnel, and they can assist without requiring your direct involvement. If something were to happen to you, speak up to a friend or someone nearby and grab their attention, having them step in if you feel you are unable to. If you can get a moment away, let a staff member know of the situation and describe the person the best you can. This rule applies on the dance floor, on the walkways, and even at the bar. You speaking up can save someone in need.